I wish I could have little print outs of this and give them to all the dudes who feel entitled to have access to me on the bus, at cafes, and when I’m just walking/biking around and won’t leave me alone even when I pointedly will not respond to them, won’t make eye contact or switch seats to get away from them.
I think the saddest part about this is I don’t get it. I don’t get how it has come to this, either. I’m male, so I don’t get what it’s like to have another sex bother you. I’m always delighted to strike up a conversation with any gender. But I’m a little extroverted like that.
But this is where sexual harassment has brought us. Women literally just don’t want to talk to anyone (they don’t know), anymore. Even in public places, while working publicly, they just flat-out don’t want to be talked-to. And this is your fault, Assholes out there. You’ve ruined my dream of just being able to communicate without feeling yet another kind of social anxiety (it wasn’t more than 10 years ago I was still worried about being snatched off the street). Now, according to this artist, I am not able to tell you if you like your dress and I have to worry that you don’t know me well enough to feel comfortable having this conversation. And fuck, dresses can be awesome.
I don’t have a point, I just am amiss. I feel like romance is dead. No more love at first sight.
Everything my mom told me about meeting a nice girl was wrong.
I find this comic a little silly. Although I agree with some of the points, the message is very negative. Yes, when first speaking to a complete stranger of the opposite sex, you should probably not compliment her dress. It can come off as a little seedy and thus the girl you’re speaking to will probably ignore you/thank you and then try to ignore you (unless you’re perked her interest, of course). If she’s wearing headphones, yeah she probably doesn’t want to be spoken to and you shouldn’t try (unless she’s dropped something, then I’m sure they’d be very grateful). If they only have one earphone in, that’s a completely different story! Go for it, say hello~
Not making eye contact/facing away from you? Dumb. Of course someone sitting alone wouldn’t be facing you.
It’s all about reading the situation, really. If you say hello and she replies with merely a smile or a murmur, yeah she’s probably not interesting in speaking to you. Leave her alone. If she says hello back and turns her shoulders to face you slightly, then continue conversing!
I love meeting new people and I’d hate to think that something like this would make anyone stop reaching out. I think the message that the OP is trying to get across is that guys should realise when their actions have crossed that point from friendlessness to harassment.
Damn sucks to have all that privilege stopping you from making friends dude.
FYI: nobody is public property, nobody is obliged to reciprocate because you reached out and you are a ‘nice friendly guy’, this isn’t about sexual harrasment (although that certainly is part of the problem) it is about violence, the threat of violence and the disambiguation. This isn’t because a few of your “asshole” friends took it too far with a few “jokes”, society is geared in a way to make public property out of any woman who steps outside, purely for existing within its dimensions and that any woman who fears for her safety in a society built upon patriarchal obejctification and rape-culture, is unjustifiably defensive in denying you your privilege in treating her as a means to your own ends, namely your imposed social values.